It was Wednesday. I was stressed, and ready to give up my dream. I’d been trying to do blog work for about 2 hours and I was getting interrupted every 3 minutes by a “new” “amazing” toy one of my children wanted to show me… I should have been thrilled to see the happiness in their eyes as they brought each toy to me and had a conversation about it with me. This was what I wanted, what I longed for prior to being a mom, but I had work that needed to get done. My work-life balance was all screwed up.
I often struggle with wether or not to call blogging “work”. I mean it would be one thing if I would be seeing some kind of compensation for it, but so far, nothing in the area of money. I’m okay with that for 3 reasons (Which would probably make a great blog post one day) 1. I enjoy writing, 2. The community of friends I have made is BEYOND amazing, 3. I’ll get there some day, I’m just not about to jump into something I’m not able to keep up with.
That being said, “But Dad” and I have had many a conversation where I cry on his shoulder trying to figure out if this is something WORTH holding on to, or something I should keep SOLELY in my “spare time”. We finally came to the conclusion that since writing makes me happy, the blog is (practically) free to maintain, and I can carve out the time to do it, I need to stick with blogging as more of a business, and maybe start looking into free lancing and writing for a paycheck eventually. I’m all for that because it DOES make me happy.
After Wednesday’s ordeal with taking 2 hours to comment on about 3 blogs, I told “But Dad” I needed a table to write outside. Away from all “my” distractions, and a place where I could actually get work done. He came up with a better idea. Move the girls back into the same room again, and set up my computer and stuff in the smaller bedroom and turn it into my “office”.
I’ll admit, a mix of emotions flooded me as I tried to decide if this would be the best idea. I want my kids to sleep, I also want them to feel like they have their own spaces and enough room to play. On the other hand, if I get my work done when I have time set aside, I can spend MORE time with them. I can plan fun things and we can have more time to do those, and I’ll be less stressed because I’m not “late” on a deadline, or thinking about what I could get done in the 12 minutes they are paying attention to the T.V. and not me.
I made it all exciting for my oldest as I moved her bed into the now “shared” bedroom. “This will be fun, sissy will be right in the same room with you” I said to her, I felt a bit of guilt well up inside, and then I said, “and now when mommy is working, she’ll be in the other bedroom working, and I can get my work done and then we can play when I come out”.
I moved my stuff into the room on Friday, and from that moment, when the computer was no longer my “go to” seat in the house. I sat on the living room furniture, engaging with my family, having conversations, and being present. It was at that moment I realized how BIG of a blessing this truly was. I realized how much I wasn’t going to miss out on anymore.
Things I would have missed today (Saturday):
Kira playing with our dog and an Easter egg. Granted, he was less than impressed, but, it was still awful cute
Kira and “Poppy” the house fly. The story goes: We were sitting on the couch, chillin’ and Kira said “Look, a bug” a house fly had made it’s way into our house. I told Kira that they normally fly around doors waiting for them to open and then fly right in as soon as someone opens the door. She decided the fly had to have a name, and the “Poppy” the House Fly was pretty cool.
The above mentioned conversation brings me to the next thing I probably would have missed “But Dad” immediately calling the House Fly “Fly” and then my next remark “He’s pretty fly for a house fly”
I know to some people these seem like little things, and maybe they are, but to me they are the things that I would have missed if my head were in the computer all day like it normally is. The things that make my family smile, laugh, or just in general happy.
Having my “office” means I separate the 2. When I am at work, work gets done. When it is family time, I spend time actually interacting with my family, not just my body being there as I am frantically trying to finish something on my phone for work. When it is time to clean, I have no excuse, there is no computer to sit at and “work” while I should be cleaning.
This has been the biggest blessing EVER!!! I am now able to focus on the things that matter most to me, when it is time to do them. It also means I know my kids are getting to spend more time with me, and that makes me less stressed. Less stress = happier mama and less cycles of mine for the house to deal with. I really wish we would have done this sooner.
So, I guess the point of this post, you can do it all, just not at once, is all about finding the little things that help you. I have work hours now, and a place to work, I also have times set up for family and cleaning, and individual time with each child. It’s only been 3 days, and to think, I’d be pulling my hair out still if “But Dad” hadn’t come up with the idea to make this an office. I couldn’t be happier, and I know my family is as well.
Do you have little changes that help you accomplish more in your day???
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