What’s New??? A Life Update on The “But” Family

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Wow, I can’t believe it is almost September. Where did this year go??? I feel like life has been a crazy ride this year. I also feel like I have been somewhat distant from my readers. I apologize for that. I don’t like to write about things until I know they are certain. Therefore, I have been doing a lot of general talk. This fall, as things get a bit more certain, be on the look out for lots more “Behind the Scenes” stuff.

So where have we been and what are we up to??? The short answer, therapies and appointments. Both “But Dad” and I have been doing physical therapy 2 and 3 days a week. The oldest has been in behavior therapy and feeding therapy. Last, but not least, the youngest was in speech therapy. Add in Dr appointments and there was our summer.

There was a month when we had Physical Therapy 5 days a week for someone. I was going 3 days a week (Mon. Wed. Fri.) and “But Dad” twice a week on (Tues & Thurs). It was craziness. Add in 3 therapy appointments for my oldest and 1 for the youngest, and our parent helping meetings once a month for each child, we were BUSY.

I pleased to say, I will be graduating from PT on Thursday September 1st. “But Dad” will be done on the 7th of September, and we will only have 2 days a week with appointments. We pulled the oldest out of feeding therapy since she is doing much better. The youngest graduated from speech therapy. It has been an eventful summer.

So, what now??? Well, our days will become easier, but still busy. We are homeschooling preschool as many of you have read 4 days a week. We have Wednesday play dates and play dates every other Saturday. There are a few things in the works, but basically, this is our life now.

So, what about “But Mom”??? I will be working the blog, another side business and working on getting my weight under control. I have been on Plexus for about 6 weeks now, and love the changes it has made in my energy and overall health. I am also going to be working with Justin from Kettlebell Burn on exercise and diet. I have a tentative goal of losing 20 lbs by the end of the year, so we shall see.

So that is what is going on our way 🙂

Tell me about your summer in the comments. Anything interesting going on???

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Keep The Fun Going!!! Savings on Batteries With Groupon!!!

Keep the FUN Going!!!

***Disclaimer: This is a sponsored post. As always, all thoughts are my own.

So, some of you have read my post about Groupon Coupon, a while back. I am learning to really love Groupon. You see, they are an amazing site for helping you save on all sorts of items. Who doesn’t love a bargain???  Here is another reason why I love them. Groupon Goods. This link will take you to amazing savings on something that keeps the fun going… batteries.

If you are a mom or dad, or a grandma or grandpa, or aunt or uncle or babysitter… well, pretty much anyone around kids, you know batteries are a MUST have. How in the world can we have fun without them??? Well, we can, but that is another post for another day.

In our house though, there are so many toys that need batteries, and the girls go through batteries so fast. Now, it’s nice to have a heads up on a place to get them cheaply. With deals like a 60 ct pack of AA or AAA batteries for 13.99, how can you go wrong??? There are some great deals on batteries and a whole lot more.

For more information on Groupon deals check out their Facebook and Twitter pages.

What do YOU like to save money on???

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Thankful Thursdays: Home School & Down Time.

The previous week in review and what we're thankful for

Welcome to yet another edition of Thankful Thursdays. I missed last week, and I am sort of glad that I did since now I can write the post on the weekend with the rest of them for the previous week, instead of considering the week all weird from Thursday-Wednesday. So, this will be for the week of August 1st-August 6th. My Sundays (unless there is a major event planned) are spent doing blog work, house work, and preparing for the week between my 2 other businesses and home school. So, Sundays really aren’t much “fun”, However I am extremely grateful to have the time to be able to get so much caught up.

So, moving right along, first thing I am thankful for is starting Home School this week. We have been working toward finding the right groove for our day, and I think I have finally found it. I was planning on using a curriculum for The oldest, and then having the youngest just kinda follow along where she could and learn some stuff from that, however, that isn’t going to work. So we are back to the drawing board, however I think I have figured out a way to get through everything in a way we would like to. You’ll have to stay tuned to Teaching Tuesdays to find out what we are doing.

Next thing I am thankful for, is The Youngest graduating from speech therapy. I am very thankful for all the people we have had come in and out of our lives. We truly are blessed to have had lots of amazing Early Intervention therapists work with our kids and help them develop and grow. If there is one thing I can say, Early Intervention is amazing, it is there, seek it out in your area and use it if you need it, these people truly work miracles 🙂  It was bitter-sweet to say goodbye to a great therapist who has been with us for the last year, however, this frees up and hour and a day at times if we need to do other things. Having less “stuff” going on is becoming a life saver of my sanity, and I am thankful of this as well.

Speaking of more down time, my physical therapy has been cut down to 2 times a week. This is being done because all I have left to do is work on strengthening, and since insurance won’t pay for a personal trainer, they are going to be letting me go by September 🙂  Again I am truly excited for less things going on. This means more days to and times to relax and get work done, and a less stressed “But Mom” I’ll take it.

So this was our week, and a few things I am thankful for. What are YOU Thankful for this week???

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Teaching Tuesday: Our First Day of Home school

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It has been a long road. A road filled with a few twists and turns, but ultimately a fun road that leads us here. Today is the first day of Home school Preschool for my little loves. They are extremely excited , and I can’t say as I blame them. They are such curious little ones and they idea that mom is going to spend time teaching them, is more exciting than words can say.

In just a minute you will get to see what our first day looked like. But first, here is our morning routine which the girls are just starting to learn.

  • Wake-up
  • Potty
  • Brush Teeth
  • Get Dressed
  • Breakfast
  • Chores
  • Start School Day

It is definitely worth mentioning here, before you get to see our day, that I am changing it up, even before the first day of school I decided to change things around, and because of this we are still in transition. I’ve decided that I am asking my girls a little too much to “sit and learn” so we are in the process of developing some new ideas to learn while playing and moving and creating.

Our first day started with pictures.


I was planning on having them in dresses and hair up and all that fancy stuff, but that didn’t happen.

Next we work on our calendar/days of the week/weather and such. There is a song and we point out the day and date of the week, followed by 2 worksheets that I help them with.


After days of the week, we work on letters. We sing our ABC’s and then I let them play and create with letter blocks. The oldest is asked to identify the letters she is building with periodically, while the youngest is shown letters and told what they are.

Next we do colors. For right now we work on a combination of identifying the colors (The oldest already knows these well) and sorting colored objects.


Then we do a fun activity. Today they are playing with play doh.


This day was short and sweet clocking in at right around 80 minutes, but I know they are enjoying themselves and they are learning in the process, isn’t that what school should be about???

Next week we will talk about the “new” way I am designing their preschool time.

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Mental Health Mondays: Transitioning Gracefully

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As a mom of 2 little kids, I am always feeling pressured by: friends, family, society, other blogs… you name it.  Seasons change, and our ability to be flexible and transition gracefully becomes evident. I was not always able to handle transition well. Somedays, I still don’t. However transition is a must in our lives at different points in time. To transition gracefully has been a major milestone in my own mental health journey.

The word transition means changing from one state or condition to another. Change is hard for so many people. We get used to things being a certain way. We like that things stay the same and are predictable. Change is hard, however there are some things you can do to help.

  1. Evaluate Where You Are Now. This is one of those things I sometimes forget. I am so busy with trying to get to where I want to go, I forget to figure out where I am currently. I’m going to use going back to school as an example for this. During the summer, where we are now, there are less rules and more fun. The atmosphere is light, and while we still have rules, they are fewer than during school. We are also having a lot of fun. We sleep in more, there is less structure, and because we all kind of do what we want, there is more cooperation.
  2. Define Where You Want (Or Need) To Be. This means making a conscious effort to decide what things you want to achieve. It means making a list and then prioritizing the list. For me, I want my kids to learn to love learning. I want them to be excited to go to preschool. I also want to increase my bond with them through teaching them and doing fun activities. These are major points on my list. Some minor points might be some things I’d like them to learn (Colors, shapes, letters, etc) however the main point are the ones I am going to work toward. For me, this means home school preschool has to be: exciting, fun, and we need to work together on projects. I can then fit in the things I want them to learn, in ways they will enjoy.
  3. Work Out A Plan. This is the one everyone usually starts on. Planning and deciding what is important for the school year (or whatever you are transitioning to). However, if we evaluate first, and then define where we want to be, we might see things a bit differently. For instance, I notice that when there are fewer actual demands, there is more cooperation. Now, I know that life has demands, and we can’t get away from that, so we have to keep some demands in the picture. But, what if just for a while, instead of dumping all the demands back on your kids, you slowly added an extra one or 2, here or there. What if instead of trying to transition in a week or 2 before school started, you only added 1 new demand a week for 4-6 weeks, and then expect that with increased demand, cooperation will be lower until everyone is used to it. I also know what my main objectives are, so sitting and doing book work for an hour for a 4 year old does NOT meet those qualifications. If I was choosing that route, I know I need to find a route that will meet the qualifications and goals I set in step 2.  Planning is fun, but if you haven’t done the 1st or 2nd step, you are planning blindly and likely to fail as a result.
  4. Plan A Test Run. This is so important. So often we just set out to work our plans, and then if they aren’t right, we get discouraged and give up. This is why test runs are so important. By remembering to call this a “test run” you are giving yourself permission to fail. You are acknowledging that this might not be “perfect” and that you are allowed to tweak it so that you can get it right. It also means you are still actively working on it. For us, preschool itself is a test run. I have allowed myself the grace to continuously tweak our format, schedule, and topics to get us to a place where we are meeting our main goals. The important part of a test run is to give it a time frame. So, we are going to test run throughout preschool to learn what works best with each of the kiddos in how they learn and work. Other plans may only need a week or 2 as a Test Run (I’d consider 2 weeks which makes it a habit and help you hold on to the plan longer).
  5. Allow Yourself Grace And Don’t Give Up. There are a lot of times when “life happens” and your perfect plan may fall to the wayside. It is okay to fall off the plan as long as you don’t STAY off of it. Get back up, keep going, keep trying. Give yourself grace and say it’s okay if I fall off AND I can get right back on. Don’t wait for a “better” time, or the beginning of a day, week, month, or even year. Get right back on by reminding yourself that getting back on right away helps to keep the momentum going. If I have a day in the middle of the week that I am tired and the girls are cranky and I don’t school that day, it’s okay. It is also okay to either have school in the evening, or jump right back to it the next morning.

These steps can be applied to any changes you are wanting to make. A healthier lifestyle, changing jobs, or even moving.

What helps you transition???

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Inspirational Parents Giveaway

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*Disclaimer: This is a sponsored post by Born This Way TV Show on A&E. I received compensation for this post, however all opinions are my own.

Being a mom is hard. I mean really, there are critics everywhere you go, and so many opinions. As much as being a mom is hard, being a mom of a child with a disability is an entirely different kind of hard.

I consider the parents of children with disabilities an inspiration. They have to be strong when they don’t know what is going to happen. They have to keep spirits up when they feel like hope is gone. Being a parent of a child with special needs myself, I get it.

My child may not be in the same situation as yours, but this mama understands a few of the things you go through. The loneliness, the second guessing every decision you make, and dealing with people who think they understand, but clearly don’t.

We as mamas put ourselves last. We run to therapies, and Dr appointments. We buy special equipment for our littles. So many times I have decided I was going to buy something I wanted, but then I found a new toy that could help with self regulation, or a compression shirt or chewie that I hoped would help instead.

For the above reasons I am thrilled that I have been chosen to share a very special Giveaway on my blog sponsored by the TV Show Born This Way.

This Giveaway is for 1 very special MOM who is raising a child with a disability. This will be a very different giveaway. I am asking YOU my dear readers, to nominate, in the comments, a mom who you think deserves to win. The prize is a 25.00 gift card to Target. Please make sure this mom would be willing to share a little bit of their story, and able to contact us either via email or phone.

I will keep this giveaway open until Next Friday (August 12th at Noon Eastern time). That afternoon one (or both) of my daughter(s) will be seen either on a Live video (Facebook Live) or we will record the video and post it to Facebook with a Live drawing of the winner!!!

If you haven’t seen Born This Way it airs on A&E every Tuesday night. The young adults they follow are a delightful bunch and the twists and turns in life will keep you cheering, bring you to tears, and make you proud to be a human 🙂

Check out this clip and learn more about Rachel:


These men and women are a great inspiration as well as their parents. Let’s help recognize some more amazing men and women who are raising children with disabilities. Nominate someone in the comments

Good Luck!!!

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